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Coping with Life Transitions: A Therapist’s Perspective

Families go through numerous life transitions, each bringing its own unique set of challenges and opportunities for growth. Families deal with those transitions together sometimes, as well as have big transitions that they each encounter individually. While we can’t completely plan for everything that is to come when a big transition happens, it can be helpful to know and understand the emotional impact of change and different strategies to help navigate them a little bit easier.


There are many different kinds of life transitions and experiences that families and individuals go through. Some may be obvious, like marriage and having children, while others are less overt. Here are some common examples of life transitions that families may experience.


  • Marriage or partnership

  • Divorce or separation

  • Having children

  • Children starting school

  • Leaving home for college or work

  • Career changes

  • Health issues

  • Remarriage and blended families

  • Retirement

  • Aging parents

  • Financial changes

  • Loss and grief


Each of these transitions requires families to adapt, communicate effectively, and support one another. Understanding the challenges and opportunities associated with these transitions can help families navigate them more successfully, helping to build resilience and stronger family bonds.


Here are some key aspects and elements that can be important to emphasize and remember when going through any life transitions.


Acknowledgement of emotions:

  • It’s important to validate the range of emotions clients may experience during a transition, including but not limited to fear, anxiety, sadness, and also emotions like excitement and hopefulness. Acknowledging these feelings helps clients feel understood and supported.

  • Normalizing the emotional response to change can reduce feelings of isolation and help clients understand that their reactions are common and to be expected.


Resilience Building:

  • Highlighting clients’ past successes and strengths can build confidence and resilience. Reminding them of previous times they successfully navigated change can be empowering.

  • Encouraging a positive outlook can help clients view transitions as opportunities for growth and development rather than solely as challenges.


Problem-Solving Strategies:

  • Developing practical adaptive skills can help clients address specific challenges associated with the transition. This includes breaking down larger problems into more manageable steps.

  • Identifying and utilizing healthy coping mechanisms, such as exercise, mindfulness, and hobbies, can help to reduce stress and increase emotional well-being, especially when going through big life changes.


Support Systems:

  • Emphasizing the importance of seeking support from friends, family, and/or support groups can provide clients with a sense of community and belonging during transitions.



While all of that can be important and beneficial to be aware of and talk through, it’s also important to identify and implement strategies to help continue to cope with these life transitions you and your family may experience. Here are some ways to make that a little bit easier.


  • Establish Routine and Structure: maintaining a daily routine can provide stability and a sense of normalcy during periods of change. It help clients manage their time more effectively and reduces uncertainty. Setting short-term and long-term goals can also give clients a sense of direction and allow them to focus on tangible progress and achievements.


  • Self-Care Practices: Encouraging regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep can help improve overall well-being and help clients manage stress. Focusing on mindfulness, like meditation and deep breathing exercises, can help clients stay grounded and manage anxiety.


  • Mindfulness and Present-Moment Focus: Helping clients to practice and implement mindfulness can help them to stay focused on the present moment, reducing overall worries about the future or regrets about the past. Using grounding techniques, such as focusing on sensory experiences, can help clients stay connected to the present as well.


  • Cognitive-Behavioral Techniques: Helping clients reframe negative thoughts into more positive or neutral ones can help to change their perspective regarding the transition. By identifying and challenging irrational or unhelpful beliefs about the big change, we can help clients develop a more balanced and realistic outlook.


  • Emotional Expression: Encouraging clients to journal about their feelings and experiences can provide an emotional outlet and help them process their thoughts. Engaging in other creative activities, such as art, music, and/or writing, can also help clients express emotions in a healthy and therapeutic way.


  • Developing New Skills: Viewing transitions as opportunities to learn new skills or hobbies can help clients adapt and grow. It increases a sense of accomplishment and personal development. For career-related transitions, seeking additional training or education can enhance clients’ confidence and preparedness.


  • Utilize Support Systems: When experiencing a big change in life, it can be vital to have someone/people alongside you to ensure you’re not going through it alone. Encourage clients to use their support system when needed and communicate if needing extra support during the transition period.



When coping with life transitions, it’s important to address it from an emotional, cognitive, and practical aspect. When we validate emotions, build resilience, develop coping strategies, and strengthen support systems, therapists can help clients navigate changes more effectively and achieve a sense of balance and well-being, even in times of change.



Written By,


Emily Blair, ALMFT




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