In today’s busy world, it’s very easy for families to get caught up in daily routines without pausing to reflect on what truly matters. A family mission statement is a powerful tool to help bring everyone together, establish shared values, and create a stronger sense of unity. It can help serve as a guiding light, helping your family navigate challenges, make important decisions, and strengthen emotional bonds. If businesses and organizations use mission statements to align their goals and values, why would it not be helpful for families? A family mission statement can help ensure that everyone is working toward a common vision, building a deeper sense of purpose and connection.
A well-crafted mission statement:
Creates unity by ensuring every family member feels heard and valued.
Guides decision-making when faced with challenges or tough choices.
Reinforces family values by opening up discussions about what’s important.
Builds a lasting impact that children can carry into their own families.
The process of creating a family mission statement should be fun, meaningful, and collaborative. Here are some steps to help guide you and your family.
Gather the whole family. Set aside time when everyone can participate, whether it’s over a family dinner, a weekend away, or just a relaxed evening at home. Make it an enjoyable experience, perhaps with snacks, music, or a cozy environment, to help encourage a more open discussion.
Reflect on what matters most. Ask questions to help each family member express their thoughts:
What do we love most about our family?
What values are important to us?
How do we want to be treated/treat each other?
What kind of positive impact do we want to leave?
How do we want to spend our time together?
It’s important to encourage everyone, including children, to share their thoughts. This helps ensure the mission statement truly represents the whole family.
Identify core values. Based on the discussion, write down key themes that emerge. Some common family values include but are not limited to:
Love and kindness
Respect and honesty
Hard work and responsibility
Fun and adventure
Faith and spirituality
Learning and growth
Generosity and service
Choose a few core values that best reflect your family’s identity and priorities.
Draft your mission statement. It’s time to put your values into a clear and inspiring statement. It can be short and simple or more detailed, truly whatever feels right for your family. Here are a few examples:
“Our family is built on love, kindness, and respect. We support each other, work hard, and make time for fun. Together, we grow, learn, and create lasting memories.”
“We strive to be a family that loves unconditionally, speaks with kindness, and lifts each other up. We value honesty, adventure, and giving back to our community.”
“In our family, we listen, forgive, and encourage each other. We work as a team, show gratitude, and always put love first.”
Make it visible and live by it. Once your mission statement is finalized, display it where everyone can see it - on the fridge, a framed print in the living room, or even as a screensaver on the family computer. But more importantly, live by it. Use it as a reference when making family decisions, resolving conflicts, or setting goals.
Now that we’ve looked at what the process can look like for creating the mission statement, let’s talk through some strategies to help strengthen the bonds within the family by using the mission statement.
Use it in decision making. When faced with a tough choice, ask: “Does this align with our family mission?” For example, if your family values adventure, you might prioritize experiences over material things. If kindness is a core value, you might focus on encouraging your kids to resolve conflict with empathy.
Reinforce it through rituals. Create traditions that reflect your family’s mission. If your statement emphasizes generosity, make volunteering a regular activity. If learning and growth are strong values, establish a family book club or encourage lifelong learning together.
Check in regularly. It’s important to set aside time to review your mission statement, even just once or twice a year is really all you need. Are you living up to it? Does it need any updates as your family continues to grow and change? This can help to keep it relevant and meaningful.
Celebrate family wins. When someone embodies the family mission, acknowledge it. For example, “I love how you showed kindness to your friend today. That’s exactly what our family stands for.” Or, “We worked well together as a team to get through a tough situation. I’m proud of us for sticking to our family mission.” These types of acknowledgements and encouragements can help the whole family be motivated to follow the family mission.
Lead by example. Parents typically set the tone for how the mission statement is carried out. If honesty is a core value, model integrity in your actions. If your mission is about supporting each other, show emotional support in daily interactions.
A family mission statement is more than just words on paper. It can actually serve as a blueprint for a more connected, values-driven life together. By creating one and living by it, you help foster a sense of belonging, purpose, and love that strengthens your family bond. No matter how busy life may get, your mission statement will be a constant reminder of what truly matters: each other.
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Written By,
Emily Blair, ALMFT
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